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This is the Work Smart Hypnosis Podcast, session number 180, Dr. Janet Crane on Hypnotic connections. Welcome to the Work Smart Hypnosis Podcast with Jason Lynette, your professional resource for hypnosis training and outstanding business success. Here’s your host, Jason Lynette. So years ago, I’m at my dentist office and it’s this interesting experience as I learned that there’s actually such a.
As substitute dentist, substitute hygienist, that basically if the dentist or the hygienist has to be out sick that day, they don’t shut down the office. There’s actually a service that they can call and have another dentist, another dental hygienist come in and fill in for the day. And this was my experience at this specific office as I share the story with you, that as the dentist has been beginning to look in my mouth, Out of his mouth.
He says, Oh, you’re a hypnotist. Are you more ericsonian or are you more Elman? At which point I have to respond. Dude, we need to talk. It’s Jason Lynette here, welcoming you back to the program and, uh, as is the theme at times, Here’s someone I’ve been meaning to have on the program for quite some time, having heard her incredible inspirational story of Dr.
Janet Crane, the dentist, who quite literally hypnosis helped to save her life and. Discovering that passion for the work that we do, going off and getting training, and then maintaining that role as the dentist. And of course, as you’ll hear her detail in this conversation, the specific, we’ll call them parameters that she had to practice within in terms of how she could use hypnotism is what uh, she was doing as a dentist.
And I’d reference that even though we only briefly hint at a specific technique in this dialogue that of what she’s referred to as the finger focusing technique, which I’d comfortably say any decent hypnotist can unpack exactly what the strategy is. It’s a brief moment of doing small muscle catay, straighten that finger out.
The more solid you let the finger become, the more you can’t bend it. Try to bend it, it gets even stronger and. Janet as the dentist would instruct her patients to make use of that as a strategy. Meanwhile, she would be in the mouth doing the actual work. And this is a technique that I’ve heard her speak on several times over the years, whether it’s at conventions or purchasing the audios of various convention presentations.
And it’s a technique that I’ve. Personally taught my clients, and you’ll hear some of the considerations as to when I do that. We’re also gonna hit on the themes of one of, uh, Dr. Crane’s specialties, which is that of tree reading and some of the science and thinking behind it. And on from there, we’re gonna talk about her ongoing, let’s call it media Project of Coffee Time with Janet, uh, which we’re gonna link.
All of these in the show notes as well as the Janet Crane website, uh, [email protected] It’s an interesting dialogue that we’re gonna get into here in terms of what it is that drives those connections from one person to another, and the incredible intimate nature of dentistry and how that.
Correlates over to how we communicate with ourselves, how we climb out of problems we’d fall into, and how we also can help our clients and become a whole lot more specific in our dialogue. Uh, I will reference just a small technical thing. We had a few, uh, recording blips about maybe two thirds of the way through this.
So my uh, editing team will do their amazing job of cleaning it up as much as possible that you’ll hear. The audio will jump. I think we only lost about maybe three seconds total. You’re gonna be all right. Uh, but again, you’ll hear a couple of blips later in. This is just the only reference I’ll make to it is it’s a bit of a non-issue there, just the wonders of technology and perhaps another reminder why our one-to-one connections are so valuable.
Uh, I’d also encourage you to check out hypnotic workers. Dot com hypnotic workers is my entire hypnosis training library captured in an easy to master on demand kind of Netflix for your hypnosis training style library. Because we can go to conventions, we can attend live trainings, and by no means is this meant to be replacement for that, but it’s where we need that community.
We need that attachment to others. And that’s why hypnotic workers is a growing library based on your requests. Uh, it’s also an active online community to get your questions answered and also at the same time have access to 120 plus hour library, uh, including real client demonstrations techniques for change you won’t find anywhere else.
And the ability to model the actual process to get the, uh, the street smarts rather than the book learning of your hypnosis practice. So check that. Hypnotic workers.com. All the links to Janet’s programs, as well as her app will be [email protected] And with that, let’s jump directly into this outstanding conversation.
Grab your coffee. This is session number 180, Dr. Janet Crane on Hypnotic Connections.
Okay. So basically I was diagnosed with advanced non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma, a recurrence of non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma that I had previously. My, I went for chemotherapy and was having such a hard time with the side effects, but because they had only given me a limited time to live, people thought that I was gonna die.
So they sent. Fruit baskets, candy baskets, cookie baskets. And my husband was gaining weight , so he decides to go to a hypnotist for weight loss. In the middle of my chemotherapy. I was already bald, already had lost 22 pounds, already had a mouth that was as dry as a desert, and he went for hypnotherapy.
And the hypnotist said, Oh my God, bring me your wife. I can help. . I had never experienced hypnotherapy before. I went to his office and after 45 minutes of the suggestion that I would be hungry, not nauseous, I left there and I went to Carvell, had an ice cream. I went and got french fries. I went and got Malam Mars
I ate my way through the rest of the treatment and in the hospital. They would say, we’ve never seen anybody gain weight on chemotherapy besides you. Anyway, it was a rough two years cuz I was on an experimental drug. But I committed that if I ever lived through this, I would become a hypnotist because if this could work for me.
I could really make a difference in the world. So I became a hypnotist, and then once I was on the road, I became a certified hypnotist. I became a hypno coach. I just was taking the traveling world the first year of the hypnosis conference. There was a tree reader there giving a lesson. And it’s so funny, like the universe said, You gotta go, you gotta go.
Because it was my first year at the NG conference, and it was the con. This class was between six and seven o’clock on the night when the big gala show was. Mm-hmm. . I think that’s like Friday night when the hypnosis show was. Yeah. Friday night when they’re doing the shows. And then there’s also some workshops that.
right. So I went to this workshop. It was life changing, obviously, because after that I learned how to tree read, and now I’m often running as the queen of tree reading. So that’s how I got here. Yeah. And I wanna rewind back into that because at the time you were in a different career, uh, when you first intro first were introduced to hypnosis.
Correct? Okay. Absolutely. So, I was a dentist. I was actually a dentist, and I specialized in headaches, facial pain, and TMJ disorders. I was a full-time dentist, but during chemotherapy, my fingers went. And I had to go on disability and they basically like assured me that my fingers would come back as soon as I was done with the chemotherapy, but it wasn’t quite as quick as they had said it would be.
Mm-hmm. . So for 18 months, my fingers were numb. And you can’t really be a dentist and give injections when your fingers are numb. Yeah. So I was on disability and I had a lot of time to think about what my future would look like, and basically what I did is during that period I volunteered. On a hotline for people that were violent towards their children to stop them from being violent.
And what I realized during that time is that we all have those moments when we like, are so caught up in our thoughts that we forget who we are. I forgot who I was. Um, when I had chemotherapy, I was so upset. I, I was like, ping myself all the negative self talk. Why me? Everything was wrong. But when I was on this hotline, what I realized is that if you could manage your thinking, You could achieve anything.
And hypnosis gave me the ability, and it gave other people the ability after I was hypnotized, that I would believe that anytime I got that little feeling, that queasy feeling, I was hungry, I never threw up again. Mm-hmm. , how amazing would that be? So when my f, when my fingers finally returned and I was able to go back to practice, I brought hyp.
Into my dental practice to help people manage stress. You know what you hit on there is something that. It is rather interesting that of all things in this area, I’m down in the Washington DC area and the, the line is that if I knew the method to actually get in front of this audience, um, things would be amazing that suddenly there was a rush of dental hygienist with the early stages of arthritis going.
Okay, so I’m not gonna be able to physically do the work anymore, yet I really like the one to one work in helping people and they find themselves, uh, interacting with the hypnosis training. What would you say it was from, from the dentistry background? That prepared you well for moving into the hypnosis?
Well, because I think that one of the things that’s really hard about being a dentist is no matter where you are at a cocktail party in, in a, you know, a very fancy event or at the grocery store and someone says, Oh, you’re a dentist. Oh, I hate the dentist . Like that immediate response was always like hard for me because like I looked at it as, Oh my God, I’m restoring your smile.
And what’s more important than that? I’m restoring your ability to nourish yourself. I, for me, yes, dentistry is like a little painful, but if I was like with my plastic surgeon friends, That’s painful, but people like really value looking young and they didn’t say to the plastic surgeon, Oh my God, it’s so painful.
I could never, I could never take advantage of your services. They’d say, Okay, sign me up. But to me they’d be like, Oh, I hate the dentist. Yeah. Like it was just perspective. Well, my own personal dentist one time gave me the anecdote. He goes, Yeah, this is the one form of being a doctor that people haggle with you, that the dentist makes the recommendation.
That, uh, you know, well, here’s a mouth guard. Here’s what it’s gonna do. Well, okay, well, how much is that? Well, what’s that gonna, Okay, maybe next time as opposed to, Your medical doctor says you need this, you need that. You just go, Okay. Um, the way that one time I had a brief, uh, uh, gum graft done by a peronist, and the intro to that dialogue was my dentist going, I need you to understand I’ve only made this specific recommendation five times in my 30 years of dentistry.
You are the fifth one. You have to do this. And I’m there going, Why are you phrasing it this strongly? He goes, Because most people start to haggle . I think so. And I think part of the reason is is that in dentistry you’re awake. Yes. So you are so vulnerable. You don’t like anyone going into your mouth.
It’s a very intimate relationship. You and your dentist. And they think there’s the intimacy issue, I think there’s the vulnera vulnerability. Vulnerability issue, the control issue. I think there’s a lot of things that go into the process. The when you go for like, I mean, I don’t wanna. Plastic surgery, again, is the only example, but plastic surgery, heart surgery, all those things, you’re not awake.
So you don’t, you don’t experience it the way you experience dentistry. And it’s hard. It’s not, you know, even though we have better pain control than we did years ago when dentist extracted teeth without any anesthesia, it’s still not there yet. You still feel vulnerable, you still feel outta control. And you are, let’s face it, you are.
And that’s like the most amazing thing about hypnosis is hypnosis gives you control in whatever area you need it versus willpower, which is I will, I will, I will. Eventually. That works out because no matter what, imagination trump’s willpower, as Ivan said. So hypnosis is powerful. So then how was it that you were then integrating the hypnosis into the dentistry?
Well, originally I thought that I was going to integrate it because I, I treated sleep apnea, I treated headaches. I treated so many things, um, that I was going to integrate hypnosis in a big way into my dental practice. Unfortunately, the New Jersey Dental Board is very strict. Yes. And they said you can only do hypnosis for dental anxiety.
That’s it. Mm-hmm. , even though it’s been proven that weight loss reduces sleep apnea, when you stop breathing, while you’re sleeping, snoring, it reduces it. Even though that’s out there. They told me I couldn’t do it for weight loss. Hmm. They told me, even though we know how oral cancer is so dangerous, you can’t do it to stop smoking.
So while I was in my dental practice, I was very limited as to what I used hypnosis for. And I used it basically to manage your anxiety in the dental office. And if I remember correctly from hearing you speak before, specifically, uh, I know you talked one time about a strategy of creating small muscle catay and using that as a mechanism to resolve those anxieties and also do a little bit of, uh, some of the pain relief work too.
Correct? Right. Because I feel like you need to have the power. I started with the finger focus, what I used during chemotherapy. It’s like a Dave Elman technique. Yes. Where you focus on your finger and when you’re focusing on your finger, you can only be focusing on one thing. Like for example, I was focused on being hungry instead of nauseous.
If you can just bring your mind to that place where you’re focusing on your finger and keeping your finger unbendable and straight, you have the power you can tap into your personal power. So that’s the technique I used because. Being, using hypnosis for self-control, you need to have the power yourself.
Yeah, and I’d shared that’s something that, having heard you speak on that before, I thank you for that cuz that’s something I’ve actually taught clients over the years of, uh, I’d give it the filter that we can work on things that are uncomfortable. We can work on resolving fears. But to say it politely, there are some things that we have to go through that may not be that, uh, comfortable that uh, we may not necessarily be going for the full anesthesia of someone getting a shot, cuz that’s not necessarily my environment.
Uh, yet we can make them a whole lot more comfortable, dissolve away the fears around that. But at the end of the day, they’re still sticking metal through flesh. So, uh, . So while you’re there, here’s the technique. Straighten the finger out. Focus on. The more you try to bend that thing, it gets even more solid.
And as you put all your focus there, that allows the doctors to keep their focus where it needs to be, and lets us become a whole lot more comfortable. Ex, uh, I couldn’t have said it better myself. That’s exactly right. And that’s why I think I got that phrasing from you about 10 years ago, but we’ll take it.
Oh, that finger that the finger focus is something that I feel like every hypnosis should teach to everybody because the good news is your finger’s always with you. Yes. You don’t need a pendulum. You don’t need. To like, raise your eyes. You, you just do your finger. And the good news is, is you could do your finger in your pocket and no one has to know.
Mm-hmm. . I think that’s like the best part about it. If you’re afraid to get on an elevator and you’re standing there and you just straighten your finger, nobody knows what’s going on. Well, I think that’s, Get onto the elevator. Yeah. And we, we talk in business about having a usp. What’s that unique selling proposition?
It’s where over the years, and whether it’s techniques like that, whether it’s, uh, quick NLP interventions, the, the mindset of sharing with you that I’m gonna teach you self hypnosis techniques you can do anytime, anywhere, and nobody knows you’re doing something which, um, followed by the catchphrase, you know, rather than I need a dark room and a CD player for 45 minutes.
Things that are practical in the moment. So even if you do need something, Here’s what you’re able to do to address that on your own. And you have your equipment with you all the time, cuz you always have your hand with you. Like I Exactly. I mean, I feel that’s like really funny but I, I feel like it’s so important that it’s you, you have the tools, like you don’t need me, you have the tools.
Cuz I feel like sometimes people want you to direct them and you to guide them and you to support them when it, they can do this part themselves. I’m not saying. That they don’t need a hypnotist. And there’s definitely things that you, you know, you can go to a hypnotist regularly for, to solve or manage.
But like reinforcement is the key because it’s really, the more you practice it, the better you get it. It’s so the, the better it would work in the hous office because you are, you’re already there. Exactly. Exactly. So then what was that? Uh, so were you just using the hypnosis then for the dental anxieties?
Were you also offer. Hypnosis has its own separate and distinct service. No, because the dental ward told me that I couldn’t practice other hypnosis in my dental practice. I had to have a different location. Yeah. So I’ve only done dentistry, hypnosis, using the finger focus, teaching it to everybody. And I’m still, whenever I do do hypnosis, that’s what I do.
I teach you the finger focus so that I empower you. Outstanding. Outstanding. So how, how was that applying to other issues beyond the dentist? Because it applies to all issues. Because the thing is, is that if your thoughts are spiraling in a negative direction, and you are going down a really bad path, if you’re going into negativity, if you’re going into worry, if you’re going into excuses or if you’re going to should or could or whatever, you just straighten your finger, manage your thoughts, and replace it quickly.
Like instead of being. In excuses, go into excitement instead of being into negative, go into nurturing. Like it gives you the power to make the switch and take a different road. And that’s what I think we need to do. We need to take a different mind road , because that’s what hypnosis does, and it gives you that power.
And we need to know how to do it. We need to practice doing it so that when the moment comes, you have that power. Well, what I love about that is that it’s a natural progression of what you were doing before just now bringing into that mind body connection of it, rather than, uh, not to use the word in a negative way, but rather than the, the more mechanical I’m in the mouth, I’m working on these things.
Here’s the mental aspect of how we can actually address that. So you can strengthen this on your own. You can prevent those headaches. You can prevent the, the grinding. And so, Right, and I really, really believe I learned this in my dental practice is there’s an emotional component to all pain. There’s an emotional component to all experiences.
It’s called your story. So something can happen to you. So many of my patients were in car accidents and the, the fact is they were in a car accident and they got hurt. When they tell me the story, it’s like, Person wasn’t watching. They hit me. They ruined my life. That’s the story, and that’s what you can control with the finger focus.
When you separate the story from the facts mm-hmm. , and you stay in the facts and you separate the emotional component, you can handle the emotional component and take that in a different direct. Because I truly, truly believe that there’s a silver lining to every experience. If you let it show itself, it will reveal itself and then you can go on the silver road because it’s a much better road.
Outstanding. So then introduce us to the, the tree reading. For those that are not familiar with that, what’s, what does that consist of? So basically, Our subconscious mind doesn’t use words. Our subconscious mind uses images and pictures, so imagine how powerful it is to kind of have like a conversation.
Become self-aware by just drawing a tree. Tree reading has been around for a really long time in vocational industries and in psychiatric care because it has been found that trees are metaphors for. For human beings, personalities, so huge for a tree. And then I can reveal what your subconscious is saying because once it’s conscious, then you could decide that you wanna make a change.
So for example, I did some true readings yesterday and there were a lot of worry trees. People drew me trees that showed how much they. Now I made them conscious of it and I gave them an action plan. The action plan is limit your words 10 minutes a day. You like to worry. Worry for 10 minutes. When the 10 minutes.
Say, Okay, I worry tomorrow because now that that’s, that’s a conscious thought. You could take conscious action, and that’s what true reading is all about, getting that self-awareness. So you could take conscious action and I know we’re, we, we were here at an audio format and without the visual, but I’m curious, what are some of those aspects?
So the, and the, the shape of this is that somebody draws a tree and then from that the reading is what’s happen. So, yeah, so basically, um, you drew a tree in a box and I can tell you by where you locate the tree, what’s influencing your mother, your father’s spiritual things, freedom, what your motivators are.
So once you know what motivates you, you could tune into that. The next thing I look at is type of tree, because every type of tree has like specific characteristics that are unique to that tree that make it survive in. For example, a palm tree. Flexibility because it has to survive those big wins. The next thing I look at is treetop.
The way you draw your treetop, the way you draw your treetop is the way you interact with the outside world. The trunk is your emotional home life, the roots of family and instincts. When you put other things in the tree, like for example, a giant sun, it shows me that you have an optimistic outlook towards life, whether you like a daily routine, whether you don’t like a daily routine.
The more self-aware you become, the more self-accepting you become, the more self-compassionate you become. Empathy increases. Confidence increases because nothing takes a place of self awareness. That’s your strongest thing. When you know who you are, you can be your best self. So then is there a way that, is the reading standing on its own, Is it something you’re now integrating into other.
Helping Modalities or what’s kind of that next phase of that at, Well, at this particular moment, it’s an app on iTunes and Android. It’s called Tree Reading. So you can do it for yourself, you can do it for your party. All the profits from that app, it’s 99 cents. All the profit goes to the National Abid Day Foundation to plant trees around the world, because that is our greatest resource, and it was my, Going green and giving back so everybody could do tree reading and, and the reason I made the app was to show people that it’s not my intuition.
It’s sometimes people draw tree and they’re like, Well, that’s not really me, and their husband is standing behind them saying it is, because that’s self-awareness piece is what’s missing in their life once you. Once you become aware of things, you can do what you want with it. It’s like an education in you.
It’s a conversation with yourself, and then you could choose what to do with it. If you find out from this tree reading that. You’re overly sensitive. Well, maybe that’s when you get some coaching. If you find out from this tree reading that you like a daily routine, schedule your day. Work with who you are, be your best self.
That’s what it’s about. An elm tree never wants to be an oak tree. You butt. You wanna be the best elm tree you can be. You wanna be the best apple tree you can be. I am all about being your best self. We all have our purpose in life, and what tree reading does is it helps you become your best. What I love about that, especially the application into an app that, you know, it’s where I’ve seen people, let’s go off in a different, uh, category, which may be similar but may not be, cuz I know this is more your expertise than mine.
That, um, here’s handwriting analysis and here’s one school of thought where I’ve heard them say, Well, it’s all based on your intuition, based on what you see. And I hear that and go, Okay, I need a little bit more detail than that. But then here’s others who go, Well, here’s how we’ve documented it. Here’s how we can look at it.
Here’s what correlations we can make. And that that self-guided application of getting into an app of going, here’s, it’s just the, you know, the nuts and bolts of it. How the process connects together, Right? Because the person that I learned. From Ask me, How do you feel about the tree? And I was thinking, I’m a dentist.
I’m scientific. I don’t really feel about it. Like that was not gonna work for me. That’s why I did extensive research to find out what the research says about the parts of the tree. Once I got that, I made it in, What I added to tree reading is I made it into an eight step process so that if you read the tree, I read the tree, or they read the tree.
It’s the same reading, it’s uniform so that people didn’t. It’s intuition. It’s not my intuition. When in doubt I leave it out. I don’t guess. A psychiatrist, psychologist send me trees. I read them because they say that it helps them really get to know the main issues. And to me, the key here is that it’s repeatable when you draw a a ground line.
it means daily routine. Whether I read it, you read it, or anybody reads it, and I think that is so important for tree reading. I think it’s important that there’s like a lot of spiritual stuff, a lot of, you know, more of attraction. I believe in that too, but I do believe in tree reading. If I’m gonna tell you about you, it has to be consistent, not having nothing to do with my intuition.
What I, what I love about this dialogue though, is the way that you’ve been able to integrate things. To the way that you’ve done things that, for example, yes, there were some barriers in terms of the dentistry. That’s an exact dialogue that I’ve actually heard my dentist bring up as well, that he goes, Yeah, there’s requirements of ongoing, uh, educational units that we have to do every year.
And he goes, and I have to mention, he goes, I’m on a path right now of taking a lot of educational credits, which yes, keep the dentistry boards happy, yet he goes So often I’m taking things that just personally I’m interested. And they tell me, I can’t use these with my patients yet. They still count for my hours.
Uh, so the ways that you were able to bring the appropriate aspects of hypnosis into what you were doing, though I’m sure, correct me on this, that as we go through hypnosis training, we’re getting a little bit more. Specificity in our language, a lot more clarity in our communication. And even though you perhaps weren’t doing a formalized, uh, process with each of your patients, there were aspects of it that were creeping their way into the process.
Not 20%, 100% correct. Yes. Like that is so. On because I feel like I was always conscious of what suggestions I was giving always. Because to me, once I read their tree, they were hypnotized by me. I don’t mean that to sound like, um, highfaluting or anything like that, but once you know about people and once you develop that trust and rapport, they’re hypnotized by you, whatever you wanna call it, they believe you.
They’re vulnerable to you. They, they trust you. So, I was always careful about my language, choice of words, and the fact that I’m making this suggestion, and they think the biggest thing about the finger focus is the fact that all day long and you hypnotizing yourself by what you’re saying to yourself.
Mm-hmm. , but same way, you have to outwardly predict your suggestions too and really say, What am I saying? What does my tree say that I’m saying to myself, Who’s influencing me? Whose expectations am I trying to live up to? And I think that all plays a part. I think the skill of hypnosis is just so valuable that everybody needs to do it and learn it.
And what’s interesting there is it does help to highlight that not everybody goes into this training, goes into this education with the goal of formally sitting down and doing hypnosis. I mean, I can reference. Physical therapy student, uh, who ended up in my hypnosis training that his description was yes, I’ve traveled here from around the world who was here on a student visa, and my professors are telling me that I’m going to teach my patients exercises, but they’re not going to do them, so that’s why I should just book more appointments.
And he’s listening to that as the young student going. There’s gotta be something I can do to help with the motivation, which, you know, he was coming into this training and English was clearly not his, even second or third language. And some of the students were going, He’s not as confident with this technique, and I’m, they’re going, It’s not what he’s here for.
He’s here for the, the communication mechanism. He’s here for the motivation aspect of it, of, again, like you just mentioned, being mindful of what suggestions we’re actually giving and avoiding those negative ones. We don’t mean to be. Exactly. And I also think that now more than ever, people need connection.
You know, it’s very easy to just be online and not really have that human connection. And I think that hypnosis is the ability to connect, connect with yourself, connect with others, and I think that’s just important. So speaking of connections, tell me a little bit more about, uh, coffee time with. Okay, so, um, I wrote a book a few years ago called, If You Want an Eggroll, Get Out of the Pizzeria.
It was a little bit biographical about how I built my life back after I had a very rough. December in 2000, in 1984, basically my first husband left me. My call was total. I got fired from my job. I had to move and start my life again. I was just devastated and my sister called and said, Janet, what do you do?
Good? I’m like, I don’t really think I do any. Well, she goes, She said, Yes, you do. You. So go shopping, you need a new house, new husband, new job, new car. And that’s when it began. I wrote a shopping list. I made a vision board of my shopping list, and one by one I got every single thing on my list. Then I made another vision board, and through the years I’ve made more and more vision boards and I decided what I really am is a really great shopper.
So I. Book for my patients about how to take this opportunity. I call it a shop opportunity. When life throws you curve balls, it’s just another opportunity to shop whatever you’re shopping for. If you’re shopping for health wealth, like some, at the first time I was shopping, I needed a lot of physical things.
The next time my life had a shop opportunity, it was emotional things cuz I had cancer, I needed hope, I needed courage, and I got all those things the same way. Starting with the shopping list, the food court is, Where you self care, Where do you take care of yourself? If you only have fast food and quick fixes, you’re not really self caring.
If you’re going shopping and you’re looking for a husband, but you’re shopping in the the Disney store or the married man store, you’re not gonna get what you look for. So you have to go to the right store and basically your store you provide for other people. If all your customers are shoplifting, you.
Well, they’re often and they’re burning your store down. You need to write better store policy and that’s what my book is all about. Fast forward, one of my sister’s friends was dying of cancer and she had read my book and like said that it was like the one thing that was keeping her going to do, I think I could call her every day.
So I. While she was at the end of her life for three months, I called her every day and I would get on the phone and I’d say, Lori, let’s pretend we’re going out for coffee and just have a chat. And we would just chat about life. And when she could no longer speak, they held the phone to her ear so that she could have this coffee time with me in the morning after she passed away.
I was like missing having coffee with her in the morning. And I hired a business coach because I was preparing some online classes and I was getting better at filming them. And he said to me, You need to go on Facebook Live because you need to like get better on camera. So that’s when I started coffee Time, which Janet, which supposed to be 30 days of me doing a live show.
On Facebook, it turned into, I’m in my second season now and I have quite a big audience, and basically people just have coffee with me. I have coffee. I don’t talk about anything. I always say, I don’t talk about anything important. That’s not true because I think everything I talk about is important, but what I don’t talk about is politics.
I don’t talk about negativity. I just talk about. Things that inspire me or things that hopefully inspire other people or what my day was like or what I was thinking, because it’s just like having coffee with a friend. And every day I get to have coffee with people and then they comment, and the whole day I’m commenting back if I have a guest on in the afternoon, I call it decaf.
And if I put up an old post that I did before, I call it a reheat. Nice. And he basically just have coffee and, and that’s it. I talk for like, Five to eight minutes. I mean, when I have a guest on, it goes a little longer, but it’s basically that you don’t have to have your coffee alone. You could connect.
What I love about that too is we were chatting before we turned on, uh, the recording here, that the goal right now is just to make that connection and, you know, maybe it’ll lead to something, maybe it’ll just be its own thing, but that willingness to open up that dialogue to create that connection, one person to another.
Is, um, I mean of all things, not to bring it into a specific, uh, you know, business discussion, but as I spend as much time in business and marketing worlds as I do with the hypnosis community, the number one quote trending thing right now is that human to human connection. That as much as the theme is that the robots are coming, the more that we can bring that human appeal back into what we do and that connection, that people are still making those decisions based on.
That, that feeling of rapport, that communication, that uh, that attachment to other people. And I think I talk about old fashioned values that people would talk about if they were having coffee with me. It’s just on a modern platform now. Yeah. Like, I just, it’s so funny because um, you see me drinking my coffee, you see me putting my coffee cup down.
It’s not, there’s nothing perfect about this five minutes and I just have coffee and people watch me and I always say to them, Do you think that I should do this differently? They’re like, No. It’s kind of funny when your coffee’s too hot or you don’t have the cream, or it tastes disgusting, like it’s just
It’s very realistic that it’s not filtered. It’s just. And you know, there are days that I ramble and I get off topic, but when you’re having coffee with someone, you don’t have a agenda. You don’t pre-think it. It’s not a business meeting. When people say to me, I think you should stay on topic, I think to myself, I think you’re right.
But I’m having coffee and there’s no, If you’re having coffee with me, you know that I think about 25 things, so I don’t stay on topic. And this is just like a reflection of having coffee with someone that’s creative. Just talking and then, you know, I love when people comment or they share it because then I get to meet more people and I get to, every afternoon I spend an hour answering people that, that Watson and comment.
And so I feel really connected to them. I love it. I love it. So where can people, where people find this online, how can they, how can they interact? , they can go to my page called Janet Crane. Um, I do it live on the Janet Crane page. I, I like post it, see, um, I’m like learning the terminology. I post it on my private page in the afternoon, but it, it’s live every day on my Janet Crane page.
And you, I think you can get it by putting in hashtag coffee time with Janet. It all pushed together. I think that’s how you can get it. Or if you like me, I’ll like you back. You know, I feel like it’s so funny for someone that’s, I’m 64 years old, so for someone my age, I still go back to feeling like I’m in the playground at, in third grade, could you like me?
And like worrying that they’re not gonna like you. Like I think the younger generation doesn’t have that attachment of. If you don’t like me, it’s like really bad thing. Like, could you please be my friends? Like, it’s still hard for me to say, Could you like my page? Cuz I feel like I’m saying, can I have a play date with you?
But you know, as I think what’s really the most important thing for me is that at my age, Like trying to bring out the millennial in me. I’m trying to bring out the, the, um, person that really gets comfortable with social media and I didn’t grow up with it, so I don’t know where to push and I don’t know where to swipe.
And I just, it’s all new for me and I feel like I’m not so great at technology, but if I could. Anybody my age could do it. And older people can do it and younger people find it easier and they think I’m living proof that you just have to be brave and take a chance. Is it my best look every day? Is it my best statement every day?
No, but you can have coffee with me every day. And no, that’s real in your life, you know? No, that’s consistent. And you don’t have to be lonely. If you’re sitting at the coffee shop and you’re watching coffee talking with Janet, you’re not alone cuz I’m there with.
Jason Lynette here once again, and as always, thank you so much for leaving your feedback online for sharing this on your social media streams as well. And as Janet said, liking me as well. I’d encourage you to reach out to Janet, check also out online [email protected], where you’re able to get instant access to my entire hypnosis training library, starting at just $47.
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