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This is the Work Smart Hypnosis Podcast, session number 97 when nothing is working. Welcome to the Work Smart Hypnosis Podcast with Jason Lynette, Your professional resource for hypnosis training and outs. Standing Business success. Here’s your host, Jason Lynette. It’s Jason Lynette here, and let’s talk about success.
Success is a rather interesting topic because we can hedge off one simple discussion right away in that very often a potential client might call you and maybe they just outward asked the question, Hey, what’s your success rate? Specific issue. Now, what I find interesting about that is, uh, and I say this not to play a slight of mouth game, not to hedge off a potentially challenging question yet, there are certain things that we work on that well measuring a specific percentage of success.
Really would not be appropriate, you know, because issues like stress and fear and anxiety, these are issues that clients are supposed to have. I mean, no, not not just clients. These are issues that people are meant to have from time to time. And I would equate that by describing that, you know, you have virus software, perhaps on a computer.
Some people have an alarm system on their car or their home, and you want that alarm system. You want that virus software to fire off. Only at the times that it’s appropriate to fire off. So it’s not that we are eradicating that entire signal of fear, stress, or anxiety. It’s more so the fact that, you know, what are we going for?
We’re looking to recalibrate the settings. Now granted, there are categories like, uh, I see a lot of people for quitting smoking, and that’s a what we call digital issue. It’s either a one. Or a zero. It’s either on or it’s off. Yet. Let’s take for example, that I see an abundance of clients nowadays who want to have better control over their alcohol consumption.
Notice the difference there. I did not say they wanted to quit drinking. I see those yet. The majority that I work with are people that don’t want to go the full route of abstinence and instead, you know, wanna be able to have just that one glass, that one bottle. Call it a day there. So how do you go about measuring a specific percentage on an issue such as that?
So I bring these themes up because as we talk about the process, Well, first of all, I would caution you and I’d very comfortably say check with your own attorney on what I’m about to say. My strategy for avoiding discomfort when something is not quite clicking, something is not quite connecting the way that we’d like it to be is that I am doing my best in my process to never make claims that I cannot back up.
I will not with, uh, respect though, really I will not with some disrespect, reference the exact name of the hypnotist I’m about to mention here yet. It’s somebody who I saw at a major convention years ago who gets up and I may have the number off, uh, but he got up and says, I have a 98.2% success rate was stop smoking clients.
Why do I say that? Because it sounds. Um, No, I’m sorry. Why do you say that? No, it’s because you’re lying. So I’ve gotta give full credit with respect to Scott Sandlin for the phrase that I’d often use here. Uh, and here’s the exact phrasing, the way that I’ve modified this statement, which would be that anecdotally from those people that I hear.
Back from the people who make use of all the scheduled appointments and make use of the tools that I share with you. That’s the group that I could say is comfortably close to about 95% successful. However, for that rare group of people who may not have the exact result that they were looking for, I could also make this statement very comfortably.
Most cases, they’re not blaming the hypnosis. Does that make sense to. And that’s rather similar to what my phrasing would be to a client. I, I would mention that this is part of my philosophy with hypnosis, that it’s a tool, and chances are, if you’re a longtime listener of this program, I mean, here we are, recession number 97, and if you’re brand new to this, well, Rewind back up.
Check out sessions one through 96. Yet, hypnosis is a tool. Hypnosis is a modality, and the tool is only as good as it’s put to use. So several other practitioners I’ve met over the years have had this type of story. Here’s this woman that I worked with who wanted to quit drinking diet Coke. There were no health related goals with why she.
Quit drinking Diet Coke. She was a multi-level marketing, health and wellness re uh, representative and she just felt like a hypocrite that there she was all day talking about change your brands buy from me instead. And she’d go home and drink a chemical red and Diet Coke. I say this with full disclosure, Here’s my empty bottle of Coke Zero next to me.
Little bit of as Perta keeps you running, so she didn’t want to drink Diet Coke anymore and really without any other health related goals, then I just don’t want to feel like a hypocrite. Here we were in the sessions just puling away, Don’t drink diet coke. Don’t drink diet Coke. Don’t drink diet Coke. Of course.
Phrase as a positive, doing the water routine, as some of you have seen me do before, uh, getting her to taste the Diet Coke for what it actually was. So the story goes, she is at her sister’s house. It’s like a year later, and there’s that gray and white, silver and white, whatever color dress can in the fridge.
And she thinks, Well, it’s been a while. I guess I can have just one. And I’ll shortcut the story here. She calls me up and she says, Jason, I need to come back to you. I’m drinking Diet Coke again. And I ask her, Well, catch me up. How’s it going? Well, it tastes like battery acid and I’m still drinking at the hypnosis stop working.
And I had to recap the story that one. Taste like battery acid and two, you’re still drinking it. Uh, I’ll change the name. Well, Barbara, it sounds like the hypnosis is still working yet. You’re the one who stopped working. So again, what I’d caution you is do not throw out specific statistics. Do not throw out bold claims that you cannot back up.
Now you can reference major studies, you can reference research. You can reference clinical studies, clinical trials. Yet if you’re throwing out numbers, be prepared to back. Now, I introduced this as a theme because we’re about to jump into my private hypnosis training community. The story goes, if you’re brand new to me, is that, uh, for several years now, I’ve always had video cameras running during my trainings, and the result of this was a little while ago, organizing through about.
14 terabytes. That’s right. Terabytes of hypnosis trainings and deciphering the information down into an online hypnosis training community titled Hypnotic Workers. Why is it called hypnotic workers? Because it’s all about people who train hypnosis, yet also do hypnosis. So you’re learning from me as I’m refining what I do.
You’re learning from the community as well, and check it out over at hypnotic workers. Dot com where you can see the preview of this. At this point, more than 80 plus hours of on demand hypnosis training. It’s the entire hypnotherapy digital brain dump from Jason Ette. Everything from hypnotic induction to philosophy, to deepening strategies to methods for hypnotic phenomenon to change strategies you will not find anywhere else.
Plus, we don’t need any more scripts in hypnosis. What we need are more transcripts. So really inside of hypnotic workers, there are full client sessions. From the moment of walking in the door to the moment walking out the door, real client demonstrations with everything from migraine removal to stop smoking, to weight loss, to pain relief, to uh, anxiety removal, all sorts of content inside of there.
And what you’re about to listen to hear is something that I’m. From our private community, each and every month we gather together for a private community webinar. And the one from, uh, I believe August, 2016, if I’m getting the date right, was simply titled, When Nothing Is Working. And in this presentation I’m going to share several, I believe seven.
But for here I’m gonna say several actionable strategies you can make use of inside of your hypno secession in those dreaded moments. Where nothing is working. Now, again, from my perspective, it’s not that the hypnosis is working. There are no such thing as resistant clients. They were only inflexible practitioners.
So in this content you’re about to interact with, you’re gonna learn some flexible strategies to become even more effective to hedge off this moment. When nothing is working to get more content, just like this, head over to hypnotic workers.com. It is a massive library with tons of feedback from students inside of it, and you can get started for just $47.
Check that out. Hypnotic workers.com though. Let’s jump right into the content. Here we are. This is session number 97. When nothing is working. So the presentation here is titled When Nothing Is Working, which is kind of a general overall theme of potential pitfalls that you might run into when you’re working with a client.
You know you’ve got that person in front of you and here you are doing everything you think is right and. It’s just not clicking. Or maybe even worse, it’s clicking in the session. It’s going outstanding in the session, and then they’re in front of you the next week and nothing is budged, which I would openly share.
Having talked to hypnotists from around the world and attended various conventions over the years, meetups and, uh, chat rooms and uh, forums and Facebook groups. If you ever meet someone who says that this doesn’t happen, let me just say it, they are lying to. There are many schools of thought, and I’m not just uh, uh, beating up the one that I often indirectly beat up.
There are many schools of thought. Some of you are smirking it that way too quickly. There are many schools of thought that would say, if you’re not using this specific modality of change, You’re just not gonna get results. And I’d be the first to tell you that’s not the case. That’s not true. And that kind of frustration is really why hypnotic workers was launched.
You know, and, and this is not just one school of thought, because there were some that would say that unless you’re using this specific NLP technique, you’re not gonna get results. There’s this other group that would say that if you’re not regressing every single client, you’re not gonna get results. It.
It’s that metaphor that when the only tool that you have is a hammer, everything starts to look like a nail. So really in this presentation here today, In this, uh, extra content that we’re adding into the hypnotic workers library, my goal is to give you, um, looking at the number of slides, about a dozen or so strategies, uh, a dozen or so different reframes shifts, different perceptions that you can bring to your process working with your client.
So when nothing is working, you’ve got some options in terms of making things work. So inside of this presentation, this is gonna refer back to all different types of content that’s already inside of the worker’s library. It may even spur some other, uh, presentations and ideas for future webinars, future content to come your way.
So I’d encourage you to, uh, leave your feedback for this presentation over in the Facebook group, or shoot me an email though. If you are in the Facebook group and you shoot me an email lovingly, I will send you back to the Facebook. That’s why we have it. Let’s jump in. This is the August, 2016 webinar Hypnotic workers when nothing is working.
So one of my first round strategies when nothing is working is to go compliant. And what I mean by that is I want you to read into that statement here on the screen. Is to, is to fold in more strategies to make my client more and more a part of their own process. You know? So it’s a place where it’s gonna become a little bit more action oriented.
So it’s a place where I’m. Probably gonna record some sort of audio. I’m probably gonna teach them some sort of technique. If my recliner has been reclined, I’m going to sit them up, right? I might even stand them up. I’m going to break them out of their possibly. Passive style to instead bring them into a more active, more compliant proceeds suggestibility style of work.
And there’s a whole module on compliance proceeds. Suggestibility. If this information is new to you, it’s inside of the workers’ library. Yeah, I know there’s like a hundred hours of stuff, but come on, watch it all. So by going compliant, I would share with you, Let me give you. The negative description of this first, and I’m gonna say it first just to get out of the way, because there’s a moment where a few years ago, I think it might have been hypno thoughts.
I think it might have been some Facebook group that I posted something of this theme and someone respectfully took it the wrong way. Because my goal, I’ll, I’ll give you the negative first. My goal is not, here’s a moment where, let’s go with a smoker. Here’s a moment where you’re back in front of me and you haven’t quit smoking.
Nothing has shifted, and then maybe I record you a custom audio program and I teach you a couple of techniques and then you’re back in front of me again a third time and nothing has shifted, and yet you also have not listened to the audio program. So the criticism of the strategy could possibly be that I gave them homework as a mechanism to prove that they weren’t motivated, they weren’t ready.
And that is never the perception. That is never the mindset I am working with a client, uh, within, because, well, I’d rather have the raving fan. I’m also the business guy. I’d rather have them out there speaking the gospel of how wonderful Virginia Hypnosis is and how outstanding their change was. So really at its core and just personally, uh, it doesn’t feel good when someone is not getting results and they’re seemingly frustrated in front of you.
So what do I mean by go compliant? I’m gonna fold in more action strategies. I’m gonna fold in more things that they should be doing. And really the goal is about bringing them back into a more active style, letting them, again, the metaphor that I often use with a client. I if it is a matter of being way too passive in the session, the metaphor that I would give them is that they are still the ones driving the car and I’m just the gps showing them a better way to get there.
So they still have to find their keys, they still have to get in the car, they still have to buckle the seatbelt, they still have to turn on the ignition, and they still have to know how to drive the car itself. So really, I’m the guide. You could be sitting passenger seat of uh uh, A road trip with somebody and giving them the best directions, and they’re going, Nope, I know a better way yet, inside of the hypnosis process, the reason they’re there in that chair is because they needed someone to show them a better way to get there.
Likewise, the reason that you were there navigating in the passenger seat of the front seat of the car was that you were the one there to guide them to a better way. So go compliant. When you find that moment where a client is just not shifting, nothing is moving, work on mechanisms within your own style to bring them back inside of the process to bring them back into the experience.
So again, simplest of strategies, really at times. It’s as simple as. I’m going to sit them upright. I might even stand them up for a moment. Even as you stand there, you can go deeper and deeper in this hypnotic state of focus and relaxation. Though I also might begin to fold in some better mechanisms of.
Self hypnosis strategies they can make use of at home. Uh, so again, that might be a custom audio program. Uh, I’ll put a link to this over in the Facebook group. You could actually just, uh, go to work smart hypnosis.com/. Zoom, uh, that’ll link you over to the Zoom H six audio recorder. It’s a bit of a high tech recorder, uh, that oftentimes is sitting in my office.
And if I’m going to record a client a custom audio, I would openly share that. I do not do that on my own time. I do that on their time. Yet the mechanism that I often make use of would be. The session has wrapped up maybe about five, 10 minutes early, and then I’ll actually say, Hey, let me give you something you can actually make use of at home.
And let’s actually do this here and I’ll pick up the little voice recorder again. You can see the one that I [email protected] slash zoom, Z Z O O M. That’s the recorder that I use with the, uh, dead kitten heter on the top. If you’ve seen me at a convention or a workshop, you’ve seen me use this thing.
You can also plug in external microphones. It’s actually my travel podcasting microphone, although full credit. So again, I will actually record that five to 10 minute custom audio when they’re there in front of me. Because again, I wanna make sure it’s something that they’re gonna make use of though.
Full credit goes to Meredith McDonough. Meredith is actually a hypnotist in the local Alexandria area where I work. And oddly enough, if you are inside of hypnotic business systems, and you’ve heard me talk about, uh, bni, uh, Meredith is now a member at the BNI chapter I used to be a member of. And here’s Meredith coming up with the most brilliant of strategies to do a custom audio for a.
She borrows their phone and she has them open up the voice recorder on their phone, I’m assuming, kick the phone into airplane mode, and you could actually record that audio program directly on their phone and they can replay it later as opposed to, what do I do? One of my, uh, designer programmers goes in, adds music and then sends it off to the person.
Uh, well, with what Meredith does, you’ve got the audio already on their device and there is no post product. How brilliant is that though? I’d also. that again, it’s not necessarily an audio program. It might be teaching a technique. It might be, I’m a big fan of the NLP strategy of collapsing anchors, where you’re building two opposing, uh, emotional forces, firing them both off at the same time.
And then in my style future pacing it forward, which is a technique they can make use of anytime, anywhere, and nobody knows they’re doing something. So I’m gonna give them things to do that. Unfortunately, if they are in front of me again and they haven’t even used the technique well then we maybe do have to talk motivation though my real goal of GO compliant is instead to bring them back inside of the process.
That’s what Go compliant is all about. So let’s move forward. Go back to the basics. So at one point I was trained to drink the Kool-Aid that you had to age regress every single client that you’ve ever possibly worked with. And if you did not do that, uh, you were not being a good hypnotist. Which, um, now, I mean, first of all, go to the history of Dr.
John Hartland, uh, of the ego strengthening technique, fame, and even Hartland. A man who was violently protesting this concept of if you take away a negative behavior, it’s gonna come about somewhere else. Even worse, Hartland was simply delivering ego, strengthening confidence, boosting suggestions, and by doing so, simply found that he was often negating the issue and.
Hypno analysis, hypnotic age regression just was not necessary. So in the words of either Sheila Grainger or Mark Carlin, not every issue is a deep seated emotional challenge. Some of them are. But not all of them. So I’d openly tell you the story briefly here of I’m working with a guy that I am, I am trying to launch into an age regression, and I mean, all signs are telling me systems go, Let’s do this thing.
Just nothing. nothing. And this is probably like a year into my process. And, uh, if you’ve heard it inside of the worker’s content, when I first got started, I’d have a couple of blank sheets of paper for taking notes. I would have, uh, my element induction printed out. I’d have a page of Deepeners similar to the one that’s inside of the Go Deep, uh, module.
Inside of this course, I would then have my emerging pattern, uh, with the red reinforcer, the, uh, time distortion set up, and then uh, the page of emerging pattern, which is probably identical to what’s inside of the emerging techniques in this content. And then I would have a flexible middle. And the flexible middle would basically be.
Here was all of my scripts and outlines for weight loss. Here were all my scripts and outlines for stopping smoking, and this guy here were all of my scripts and outlines for overcoming insomnia, improving the quality of sleep, falling asleep more easily. You get the idea, and I’m working with this dude and just nothing with the regression is.
And I made a mistake next, which I previously, uh, lambasted and, uh, completely went on a tie rate against a former student of mine on, well still student of mine that I’m really, of the opinion if the age regression fails, you’re kind of silly to go after interactive techniques of a similar. . So while it’s not appropriate to train the, uh, the Roy Hunter Charles Tets parts therapy process inside of the worker’s content because that is something that Roy teaches and pick up his book about, uh, resolving hypnotic inter conflict, uh, it’s a fantastic book and it’s purple so you know it’s gotta be good again.
Work Smart hypnosis, 50 shades of purple. Here’s a guy that, you know, the student of mine, the age regression didn’t fire. So what did he do? I’m gonna go with the hunter te style of parts therapy, which just bombed even faster. So what do I mean by go back to the basics? I gotta tell you, in this session, I just went, What the hell?
Why not? And I read this guy a. . I read him a script. I forget which one it was. It might have been from the Jerry Kind book. It might have been something from, Oh, who knows where, and. That’s all I did. I mean, it was that moment of retreat and granted, I probably wouldn’t do that today. I would instead go to content that you’re aware of, whether it’s straight line transformation, whether it’s, uh, building kinesthetic anchors, whether it’s whatever else’s inside of this content and hypnotic workers.
But I just went to the basics and damn it, if he wasn’t sleeping like a baby from that day forward. I mean, go to the Yelp page for Virginia Hypnosis. Uh, while you’re there, read the one negative review that I do have and proudly have as she complained that the first session was too long. The second session was too short, though I did respond to her and she changed it from two stars to four stars.
Read that on your own time though. I can actually reference, there’s a woman by the name of Sharon on my Yelp page who to this day, I keep in touch with her actually having lunch with her in a couple of weeks. Uh, she’s still down about 40 pounds and I never went beyond direct suggestion and imagery with her.
Never a bit of regression, never even fancy NLP strategies. I mean, there’s things that are NLP in style. Yet it was very much a do this, do this, eat this way, move that way. Style of process. So sometimes we might be over complicating our technique, you know? Sometimes we just need to be a hypnotist and say hypnotic words.
That’s what I mean by go back to the basics. And you’re gonna see this theme pop up again a little bit later in some of the other, uh, some of the other slides here that sometimes just backing up and simplifying the technique. You know, it’s where those of you that make use of any sort of metaphorical work, ericsonian storytelling, you will run into clients sometimes.
I gotta say it. You either had to give them a pre-talk or they just didn’t get it. This woman I worked with recently, to our credit, she immediately shifted her behaviors involving eating. She used to eat a lot of junk food. She wanted to swap over to a more paleo style of eating, and she had this, I mean, disgusting habit of chewing the skin on the inside of her mouth to the point it was practically bleeding and infected.
As lovely as that sounds. And I went very, very metaphorical, very ericsonian in our second session. And she left, I mean, a little offended, a little bothered by going the hell was that, I mean, you just told stories about movies, you just told stories about uh, pole vaults. You just stole some of the stuff that’s inside of the worker’s content and.
It’s the third session though, she’s in front of me. She goes, I don’t know what you did last week, but everything is better. So needless to say, I told her more stories than the third session. Uh, though then again, I’ve had some clients that just that style of work just did not click. So I just went as literal as possible.
In the morning, you will wake up and you will do this, and then after you’ve done that, you will do this series of actions. And after you’ve completed those actions, this is what you’ll now be doing and this is how you’ll be. So sometimes just simplify your work. And oftentimes that might be that thing that actually makes it happen.
Go deeper. Go deeper. Uh, which I would share again from the Jason Lynette Hypnotic Workers Work Smart Hypnosis School of Thought. All levels of hypnosis are created equal, though some are more equal than others. , Yeah. Where my George or well fans at. So what level of hypnosis do we need to produce change any, But again, all levels are equal, though some are more equal than others.
So really I would prefer you get them down to a working level of what we often define as some nab bism, which is a level of hypnosis where amnesia by suggestion, anesthesia suggestions, as well as profound hallucinations, both negative. Positive can be produced. So very often if they are not responding, maybe you did not have them technically deep enough inside of the process.
Now, granted. Inside of the models of nlp, inside of the models of conversational hypnosis. I mean, look at the second session that’s about to go up in the library in the weight loss sessions with, uh, Denise. With Denise. You can see me in the preframe of that session running every technique on. Before the process began.
And it’s my mechanism of screening the strategies to guarantee, yeah, that’s gonna work. And I’m getting the change conversationally. So there was no quote hypnotic depth though. If we’re inside of the process and just it’s not firing, I would encourage you employ more hypnotic deepeners. Uh, I had another slide that I got rid of.
That I combined instead with this one, uh, uh, to be instead of go phenomenal. Just keep it with go deeper though. You’re gonna see that theme is gonna pop up later, but again, go deeper. Whether it’s making use of some sort of, uh, hypnotic phenomenon, whether it’s some sort of deepening strategy. I’m a big fan.
Again, this kind links back at this point. Some of these are gonna start to overlap from one to the other. I’m a big fan of kinesthetic deepening. I mean, go to the Go Deep module and look at the shoulder. Press deepener if you’re not using that. Oh my God, is it powerful? And going back to the go compliant slide a little while ago, that’s often a strategy I might make use of.
Because simply doing that shoulder press, startles them out of that passive mindset, drives them deeper into hypnosis, and just that hand on the shoulder pressing down as they exhale is very often enough to get the process back on track. So again, there’s gonna be some overlap from one of these strategies to the other, though again, back the pattern from Dave Elman, back up, distract, deepen, reenter.
So like if you watch the content of the Dave Elman induction, if something has not connected, you know that’s the place to back up, deepen the process and give the suggestion in another format. Hey, here’s a freebie, uh, here. Hey, this one’s on me. Uh, beautiful little suggestion you can make use. Hey, we’ll do that again.
And this time, notice what’s different. You can deliver the exact same pattern again and get a different response simply with those words. Hey, let’s do that again. And this time notice what’s different. And again, check the transcription of this for any specific phraseology that you’d like to pick up as well.
Moving on to another one. Here we go. The next strategy would be to go another direct. Now, the next couple of themes may seem to overlap, but I felt it necessary to separate them because there’s gonna be some nuances from one idea, one thematic score to another, as it were. So, Perhaps in the style of going back to basics, going another direction.
Uh, what I would mean by that would simply be that we can go in other directions and the next couple of slides are gonna be examples of this one right here. So, for example, you can go another style, go another style. So I mentioned previously. Well, I do not teach the Roy Hunter Charles TE’s parts mediation parts therapy process inside of this content.
I don’t teach the Simpson Protocol for pretty good reason. That’s someone else’s stuff. Uh, and they have products for those. And if you hear me reference things in general, it means I like them. I do have a style that, uh, if I am ever criticizing something, I do not reveal what it is. So basically, if you hear me talking, Someone or some product or some book, take that as a nod that I think it’s good cuz I do tend to respectfully censor myself on these things.
So go another style. So it’s where, you know, parts therapy is a process. Parts therapy is a category. So inside of the worker’s content you do have the uh, the kind aesthetic squash. Segment, which is my variation on an NLP visual squash, which kind of goes back to the standard parts therapy process. You’ve also got the new behavior programmer, which is pretty similar to a new behavior generator.
Again, just different twists on it that we can often go another style, another process within the same category. You know, that kind of relates to this next concept of going thematic. So going thematic. What would I mean by that? Well consider if you’ve gone through the entire age regression module here inside of hypnotic workers, Well, that’s this massive process that could be beautifully interactive.
Again, my perception of age regression is that it’s all about getting that client to the place where they are now doing direct suggestion hyp. On themselves. That’s what my intention of age regression is all about. It’s the catch and release, it’s the death and resurrection. I am becoming less and less concerned about the backstory of where we pull that slingshot back to.
I’m more concerned about where that thing lands once we let go of it. So going thematic, if you are doing age regression, I mean, hey, even if you’re doing parts therapy, even if you’re doing a fast phobia cure, which content on that is coming to this worker’s library? Rather soon, I’m gonna be filming some NLP stuff and adding that into this as well.
Again, this library is constantly growing. This recording is happening again August, 2016, just to date myself. So going thematic, You know, if we’re doing any of these interactive strategies, we could pivot and we could instead do that technique in a direct suggestion format. Would that be, in my opinion, your absolute best possibility?
I would probably say no, though. I can reference times that the age regression just wasn’t click. Just wasn’t firing the parts therapy process. Even doing the, uh, the hunter tets variation where the parts are speaking on behalf of themselves. You know, that just wasn’t, that just wasn’t clicking that day.
So what did I do? I simply began to run the process in a thematic style simply by doing it in a direct suggestion format. And, uh, check this out. It worked. So again, it’s not this mindset that if you didn’t do it this one way, it didn’t work. No. Take it as the nod that that client perhaps just needed a different style of doing it.
That client needed a different application of it. So if you’re beautifully interactive process is not firing off, interactive, go thematic. And what I mean by that is run it as if it was just simply direct suggestion again, when all else fails, apply suggestion. That’s my principle of hypnosis in many times.
So the opposite of going thematic would instead to be to go process. So what I mean by that is the opposite. So take everything I said over the last four minutes and just reverse it. Moving. No, let’s get specific here. So in terms of going process, maybe it is something direct suggestion and instead, kind of similar to going compliant, I’m going to bring you back inside of the process with even greater detail.
I’m gonna bring you back inside of the experience and as you do this, what do you feel now and how do you feel that in your body and what’s going on now and project yourself in the future? What’s d. And as I pick up this hand and drop it, be there, it’s later today. What’s happening now, and I’m just getting you more interactive in a process oriented approach rather than a direct suggestion approach.
So again, look at the differences between going thematic and going process. This is why there are some who do these really long sessions. And again, it’s not just one school of thought that do these really, really long suggestions. Really long sessions with forgive. where it’s the old, um, I think I first encountered this from Jerry Kind.
I’ve seen this in the Gil Boy School of Thought, the, the Five Panthers as well. The beating the pillow, uh, forgiveness style, which I would share. There have been moments where that was the absolute best thing I could have done with a client. But then again, there were other moments we’re just simply suggesting as it reads out of, uh, Roy Hunter Art of Hypnotherapy to release this person of the, of the Apology.
They voted you for all these. To credit Michael Elner for a funny phrase about, uh, forgiveness being the release of hope that things could have gone differently. So take this moment, forgive your past, and when as you’ve done that, either nod your head or say the words it’s done. You know, lock them off in a double bind.
Get the change, move on where rather than spending two full sessions, three full sessions, four full sessions just inside of, uh, doing. The forgiveness process, I satisfied the same results by a simple stream of direct suggestions. Not every case needs the beating of the pillow. So again, thematic process.
Choose your favorite method. So moving forward in terms of going another direction, we could also just simply go behavioral. So it’s the story of a local hypnotist. Uh, who calls me up and says, I’m working with this woman for a sugar addiction, and we’re kind of stalled in our process. And I say, What’s going on?
And this kind of dates back to the previous, uh, bullet point here that. The experience basically was they were doing all this forgiveness work on what the father had said to this woman so many years ago, to which I just had to say, Why don’t you just be a hypnotist and work on her sugar addiction? So behavioral.
What did he end up doing? He was suggesting eating healthy whole foods. He was suggesting exercise motivation. He was suggesting strategies to fill. Late, metaphorically, and literally with all those wonderful things she should be doing instead. And she was so busy doing those things, she didn’t get caught up in the sugar.
So sometimes you just have to make the process into, Simon says, as I do this, you do that. Simon says, do this. So sometimes again we get caught up in the back. We get caught up in the context of the content of the back history, and instead, we need to go into the context of, again, how do you feel now? How would you rather feel?
What are those things you’re doing now? What are those things you’d rather be doing? And let your process be entirely, go behavioral future, pacing their desired outcome. And if you want a really simple strategy to do that, play with perceptual position. , you know, whether they’re imagining a movie theater or an empty stage, or you really don’t even need a thing to do this, you know, just be there.
And imagine watching yourself, observing yourself, doing these things you’d like to be doing, and then step inside of it, notice how well that fits, feel it in your own body, and just toggle that back and forth, back and forth. And that’s often enough to condition the new behavior. . So sometimes you just have to be a hypnotist and talk about the issue they came in for.
On the other side though, to back up the other side, is sometimes you’ve gotta go emotional, which again, it all stems from that feeling inside of you that has everything to do with why you blank, why you smoke, why you drink, why you eat, why you have this fear, why you anything. This is probably the flaw of many hypnosis trainings that are kind of stuck within the written word, because they’re just kind of in the practicality of behaviors.
Well, Even Hartland would say that that’s not always the case. So, um, sometimes you just gotta dig into those emotions. So actually the, the sessions that are in the library, the weight loss sessions with Denise, that’s the feedback after our process. You have the first two sessions that I did with her recorded and, um, we didn’t record the third one for a simple reason.
Uh, I did the limitless self hypnosis. because she came in and she was raving. All of my emotional eating is gone. Go back and watch those videos too, because you’ll see that from session one to session two. This is a clear example. Session one, I went behavioral, but then session two, I went after the emotional hook of the process and that’s what got the change.
So again, the NLP presupposition, there is no failure. There is only feedback. The feedback with those sessions with Denise was that I did not need to go with a behavioral route. Instead, I needed to go emotional. Now granted the style you saw me do it in those sessions is very often how I do it. I begin basic.
I begin direct suggestion and imagery. I begin by talking. Literally about the things they’ve come in for. And only then after that, do I start to get metaphorical, Do I start to go into emotional triggers as well? Unless you’re coming in for something emotional. My favorite theme is the one coming up next, which would be that of going kinesthetic.
Now this is gonna link to the next one because we can get into the behaviors, we can get into the emotions. However, we can also go in and get into the feelings and not just the feeling of, I’m sad, I’m happy, I’m depressed, I’m anxious. No, I mean in terms of the kinesthetic feelings, the sub modalities of how they process those sensations in their body.
So this is that whole playing with feelings module, my application of glove anesthesia, because it’s in many ways a moment of going directly into the kinesthetics of it, which links to this next and final slide, This idea of going surreal where they’re expecting changing behaviors. They might be expecting changing emotions, but this is a place where I’m going to go into the techniques.
And, uh, go full Salvador Dolly on them. And my real intention in this moment is to completely break their perception of reality. You know, it’s gonna be added to the content in the next couple of, uh, days. But at hypno Thoughts Live 2016, this will be over in the hypnotic phenomenon module. There’s a story that I told in that workshop that I taught at HT Live of a woman by the name of Stephanie, that Stephanie calls up and Stephanie says something that most hypnotists would’ve turned her away for.
I know I need to quit smoking, but I don’t think I want. and I fed her a Dave Alman line, or at least my paraphrase of it. If you follow my instructions, I know I can help you. However, if you’re not willing to follow my instructions, I don’t know a thing in the world that will help you, would you like to come in?
And she says yes. And my entire goal of that session was appealing to the behaviors. Wasn’t gonna crack it. Appealing to the emotions that that wasn’t the motivator yet. However, going in and respectfully breaking her perception of reality, going full surreal on the experience I was throwing. Every bit of hypnotic phenomenon I could.
At this woman. I mean, anything and everything I could possibly think of was folding into that session. I was making the mouth dry with the water trick. I was doing the eye lock and the arm lock from hypnotic phenomenon. I did the glove anesthesia segment. That’s usually a session two strategy for me. But I did that in the very first session, and there’s a payoff moment that occurred where I had her right hand stuck to the.
and the simple suggestion was, Open your eyes, it sticks tighter. Look at that thing. Isn’t that weird? And she’s just sitting there going, This is so weird. And I just felt the need. Then just to, again, Sean, Michael Land’s line. When you stick him to one thing, you could stick him to something else. You know what’s really weird, Stephanie?
I haven’t even mentioned it yet, though. Your left hand is also stuck as well. And now she’s there with both of her hands. She muttered some sort of. Conversational expletive, Nothing angry. Just one of those holy fill in the blank moments. And I just simply invited her to close her eyes. And take this moment to yourself to decide the meaning, the understanding, the lessons and learnings from this experience today.
And only as your mind all levels have integrated this change once and for all. Only as all levels of your mind understand that you will never smoke a cigarette ever again in your life. Well, that’s the only moment. Those hands will easily become free and relax comfortably back in your lap. She sat there for like two or three minutes.
And then the hands parted and then the work was done. Let me actually, uh, do something here. Let me open something up here. Uh, you, you gotta see this. Uh, let me open it up on the other screen. I’m going to monitors here. Let’s see, Virginia Hypnosis testimonials. I’m gonna pull up her actual, uh, testimonial letter so you can see it here.
Yeah, there’s Stephanie. what issue? Uh, Jason worked with me to change exactly what I wanted to change. I couldn’t be more pleased with the results. She quit smoking. We’re also working on binge eating. Uh, please share how successful hypnosis has been for you. Bezaro. Maddeningly successful. Parentheses, is that even a word?
Successful? Uh, address the behavior that I wanted to change. I don’t recognize these behaviors as part of what I do anymore. I don’t even think about smoking. It’s foreign to me. Compared to other methods, gum medications. I obsessed over cigarettes. I did my right. She shoes, Virginia. I did my research. Have we succeeded in meeting your expectations?
Absolutely exceeded. She’d refer to me and this is the payoff moment. Other comments? Jason knows this shit so again. Sometimes you just have to go. And that’s what I mean by that, really as I like to say it. Sometimes you just gotta be a hypnotist. I mean, go to the, the podcast session, I believe part one that I did with Scott Sandlin, and I think I recorded that session with Scott a few days after that session with Stephanie.
And it’s how I think, whether it’s he or I or both of us, agreed. Sometimes there’s more showman. Inside of our hypnotherapy session than our is and perhaps even a stage hypnosis show. So this has been when nothing is working, and I know that as you interact with this content, you may find yourself unfortunately in that situation.
It just happens sometimes though. What I’d encourage is to take some time and kind of brainstorm for yourself. You know, especially if you’re new in hyp. . I would say this is not a bad strategy though. I’ll give you a little filter on it, which would be that if their second session is coming up in a couple of days, maybe call them the day before.
And let me tell you the story first. When I was back in the days of theatrical management, I learned to never walk into a dressing room and ask, Hey, just checking in, is everything all right? Because then they’d be on the guard of going, Why? What’s happening? So the. Excuse me. The magical phrasing is, hey, just checking in to see how well things are going.
That’s a great phrase, and it’s just presupposing that things are going well because they should be, and most often, thankfully, they are going well though. If you find out that on session, uh, the day before, it’s Thursday and they’re coming in on Friday. Well, that gives you a day or two to kind of prepare, to brainstorm, to think about what you can possibly do with that client.
You know, if you did want to do an audio program, you might be able to do it in advance, should you choose, if you don’t want to use my technology hacks that I shared inside of this session here today. The other side of it too is I’ll give you one last final thought that I actually, I used this with a guy about three weeks.
and yes, I know we’re about 40 minutes into this presentation, and let me say it now. I think what I’m about to tell you is perhaps the most, uh, beneficial thing you’re gonna hear in this presentation. So congratulations to those of you that have listened to all the way towards the end, you know, because sometimes there’s those moments where just life happens.
This guy is a golf. And we’re working on resolving anxieties. We’re working on for some performance enhancement. We’re working on standard sports stuff, and basically he had the most abysmal game, uh, from our, We’ve been working for a while now. Uh, from session four to session five, everything has been going wonderfully well until.
Though, and I say this not to excuse myself, not to excuse myself of any, uh, connection to this yet, it was a day that it was like 105 degrees outside. It had just rained. It was really, really muddy, and he wasn’t playing with his own clubs. , you know, sometimes there’s a pretty good reason why things are a little off.
You know, I, I can tell the brief story of a woman who I worked with that we were working to instill a more positive outlook on life, a more, uh, abundant mindset, law of attraction, all that good, happy stuff, and. She’s in front of me and I think we had done like five sessions. It’s the fourth session, and I mean, thank God no one was hurt.
Yet her family in the minivan, the minivan was side swiped by an 18 wheeler. It flips over five times and lands on the tires. The tires are all busted and the family maybe has a couple of bruises. The van is totaled. The van will never drive again, but hallelujah. No one is dead. No one is injured. Beyond.
Awkward bruises, seat belts, did their job, airbags did their job, and she’s there in front of me and she’s going, I thought this would’ve been going so much better by now. And it’s a moment where unless I had delivered the next thing I was about to say, I’m about to tell you all could have been lost.
Because the reframe that I simply share is, You know what? This may sound odd. But I’m happy. I’m glad that we have this little hiccup under this massive, massive atrocity. Now, I’m glad we had this challenge while we’re still working together because we could have been working together if we had started a month early This event.
You know, would’ve happened after we had worked together. And how great is it that today, in addition to continuing your process, we can spend some time directly on this or any other events like it that may happen in the future? So examples of this, you know, maybe there’s a holiday in between times where you’re working with clients for weight loss and you know, Again, the story I love of the guy who goes, I enjoyed the hell out of it, you know, to take that moment and enjoy the occasional appropriate, again, occasional indulgence.
Um, here’s the moment where I had a guy freaking out. I love this, uh, freaking out cuz he smoked a cigar like eight months after our stop smoking cigarette session and he insisted he had to come in. I’m on the phone going, You’ve had one in the last eight months. It’s a cigar. Buy the best one you could afford.
And it’s still, he wants to come in and well, and Jennings, if you’ve got the money, honey, I got the time. So it’s, he’s in front of me. And again, to have that frame of how good is it that we get to address this while we’re still in process. And the moment you say that, it just cuts all the tension out of that experience.
So if there is a quote, it hits the fan moment. You know, that’s a great, great thing to say to somebody. You know what? That probably was rather uncomfortable for you. However, it’s great that we get to address it while we’re still working together. I’m telling you if there’s one takeaway from this webinar presentation, that’s the one to use.
So share your comments, share your feedback inside of the Worker’s Facebook group. Uh, be sure to vote on future presentations, and again, continue to scan through all of the material here in hypnotic workers. Also, it’s like the, uh, piano player at the bar. I take requests. This is a growing library, so as you notice things that you want to see more work on, let me know.
It might be a webinar. I may just produce a whole module around. It’s Jason Lynette. This has been the Hypnotic Workers August, 2016 webinar. Keep listening to the Work Smart Hypnosis Podcast. See you next time.
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